Do you have a narcissistic wife?

This is a reflection tool, not a diagnosis. No quiz can tell you what someone else is. What it can do is show you a pattern in your own experience — push-pull warmth, shifting stories, guilt, the slow drain — clearly, in one place.

Men often tell me they feel ashamed to raise this — as if admitting hurt means they failed as a husband or provider. You have not failed. If several statements feel uncomfortably familiar, that is worth taking seriously.

• 18 statements, about 4 minutes
• You get a personalised first aid plan — what to do, what not to do
• Nothing is saved or sent — your answers stay on this page

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